We all walked down that familiar road. From teenage years to adult life, the excitement of falling in love, the euphoria of going through a relationship, or the fantasy we had woven, as we visualize the same.
In movies and novels, love mostly play the winning hand. The whole narrative seems so smooth. Accidental meetings, both hearts click at a moments notice, and the bond becomes unified.
In life, it does happen, at times. However there is also the other side of the coin, which is not widely depicted.
1. One Sided or Unrequited Love – Strong obsession and attraction towards a person of desire, which is not returned in the same way.
2. Friction in Relationship – Lets face it, there is no hundred percent compatibility in any relationship. However through compromises and mutual understanding, most of these issues can be averted.But sometimes things would not go that smoothly and can lead to small frictions, which can escalate into break ups.
3. Cheating Cases – The feeling of having a cheating spouse or partner is more than enough, to cause a heart break. Add to it, jealousy, anger and resentment.Heart break is a feeling in which, a person goes through a period of low self esteem, depressive moods, anger, jealousy and even suicidal tendencies.
Modern medical journals states that, since the heart is enduring a lot of stress, there are remote chances that a heart attack can occur, during the same. Yes, you can die of a broken heart.
Remedial Methods and Coping Strategies
1. The most important and usually overlooked factor is keeping a constant reminder of your ex. After break up, we still keep track of their social media updates, profile status, photos and then fantasize with the same.Why is this counter productive? On one hand we are trying to forget a person, who has caused much harm psychologically and on the other, we relive their memories, through a fantasy created world. This makes the mind confused, and can lead to emotional mood swings.
End note. Remove all photos or reminders of your ex. Unfriend the person from your social account. Do not initiate a conversation or if called, close the conversation, as abruptly as possible. Don’t feel bad or guilty about being cruel, which is not the case. The person had caused you much harm and there is no need to go through, and relive the pain again.
2. Now after the first step, in a few weeks you will be able to feel a little relieved, from your heartache. But usually a void is created, when a person moves away from your life.To fill up the void is essential. Some would suggest going out, for a new relationship immediately, but I would strongly recommend against it. For one thing, you are recovering from a strong emotional pain and time is needed, to overcome the same.My suggestion would be to increase your social circle. I know it is tough, as after a heart break, we tend to isolate ourselves, from the world.
Start small. Talk to one or two of your very close friends. Tell them how you feel and also you can talk other subjects, of your choice. Then slowly widen the circle with more social activities, or get together.
3. When we feel attracted to a person, our brain creates a neuron pathway, which becomes embedded over time. When the person leaves, the brain continues to search for the same, in order to complete the connection.
This is why the brain keeps on projecting image and memories of the relationship. The key here is to retrain the brain, and divert its attention onto something, which is challenging as well as interesting.Take up an activity or a hobby, which you are really passionate about. It can range from blogging to painting or anything that you wanted to do, but kept aside for some reasons.
When we engage completely in an activity, our brain produces the feel good neurotransmitter Dopamine and Serotonin.This elevates our mood, providing a rush of happiness and increases self esteem.
4. Well, we heard it many times and more than a cliche, it really does work.Exercise is the quickest way, in which you feel relaxed, increased self esteem and reduced stress, with minimal efforts.You need not go through a detailed work out plan. A walk along nature’s side or a jog for a few minutes, is more than enough, to obtain the above effects.
5. If after all this, the symptoms still persist, consult a physician or a therapist, at the earliest.
Source: How to Overcome a Heart Break